COUNSELLOR & COACH
Danielle on working with your fears…
“Human beings are fearful creatures, which makes sense from a biology perspective. If we weren’t afraid of anything, we might put ourselves in risky situations and that’s not conducive to keeping the species going. But, today’s environment has conditioned us to fear things like an email from our boss or to fear judgement from other people, so we start to train our mind to operate on fear as opposed to trust. When we operate on fear, we stop being true to ourselves and start to be the person we believe others want us to be. We people-please, we say ‘yes’ when we really mean ‘no’, we numb ourselves to feelings because they become inconvenient, and so on, until we have disconnected so far from ourselves that we can’t recognise who we are.
There comes a moment, or event moments in our lives, when we need to make a choice: do I continue to interact with the world I live in based on fear, or do I experiment with a different dynamic? Trust is a new dynamic. Fear and Trust are two sides of the same coin. Acknowledge your fears on one side, and then ask yourself, “What would I do differently in my life/this situation if I trusted myself, trusted others and trusted in the timing of my life?
We may or may not do the things we’d list under trust but at least we’ve asked ourselves the question. It’s in not asking the question that we become stuck.”
Outside the therapy room
I like to get out of Sydney and go exploring, especially to beautiful spots that deliver great coffee. My partner and I LOVE visiting Act Casual in Brooklyn, NSW, or Cassiopeia Speciality Coffee in Katoomba.
What I’m Listening To
Revisionist History – MALCOM GLADWELL
Apart from a bit of Modest Mouse and Colombian band Bomba Estereo for my gym work-out playlist, I listen to a lot of podcasts. At the moment, I am completely obsessed with Malcolm Gladwell’s Revisionist History. Superb storytelling.