PSYCHOTHERAPIST & COUNSELLOR
After having treated the mind as disembodied for centuries, the Western world is now starting to talk about ‘bodymind’ and Gay is truly excited about what this means for psychology. Neuroscience reveals that early attachment and stress can affect the healthy development of neural networks. Gay is excited to support in the reversal of these effects, utilising the brains plasticity, via the therapeutic relationship. She considers it an honour to share in your journey and to provide you with a safe therapeutic environment in which to grow.
Gay works holistically to provide trauma-informed, client-centred treatments that incorporate both the mind and body. She works top down (cognitively) and bottom up (with sensations, feelings and the bodies automatic reactions). Her methods include working with Attachment Theory, Somatic therapies, Psychodynamic therapy, Gestalt and Neuropsychotherapy. She also incorporates her dog, Florence (she’s the cutest). Animal assisted therapy goes much deeper than just the tactile comfort and soothing that it provides. Florence also helps people to develop a more positive sense of self.
“It is hard for our inner critic to see us as unworthy or unlovable when we are presented with such unconditional affection and clear desire for our interaction. I believe much of therapy is about providing these missing experiences.”
Gay’s tip for engaging the Vagus Nerve
“The Vagus nerve is a key part of the ‘rest and digest’ nervous system. It can rapidly turn off stress after our bodies fight/flight system has been set off. We can turn on this effect by stimulating the Vagus nerve. Here’s 3 ways how:
1. Have a cold shower – start by ending your shower with a cold blast of water and build-up to longer periods of time.
2. Deep, slow breathing – breathe from the diaphragm (your stomach should expend outwards) at a rate of 6 breaths per minute.
3. Singing, humming, chanting and gargling – this activates the vocal cords and muscles at the back of the throat which massages the Vagus nerve.”
Outside the therapy room
“I love going to the movies and particularly like to support the smaller cinemas, my favourite is the The Ritz, a 1930’s cinema at the Spot. Afterwards you’ll find me eating Thai or Vietnamese with friends. When I need to recharge I go to Bronte pool to take in the ocean (safe from the surf!)”
My therapy song…
“Turned up high…”
I KNEW YOU WERE WAITING FOR ME – George Michael & Aretha Franklin